my philosophy.

"i was busy finding answers while you just got on with real life" you were right Badly Drawn Boy

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if the things that happen to me are not my fault and out of my control - then how do i prevent them from happening? if everyone has their own free will and ability to choose their own actions, how do i keep their actions from affecting me? everyone says i need to learn to deal better with that which does happen which is out of my hands ... maybe this is true. but what if people took responsibility for their actions and realized how they affect others? we are all connected - just a giant network of lives - lives which push and pull on those they're connected to. But instead people live as though their life is theirs and theirs alone - no one else matters.

you matter.